Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2012 4:20 pm Post subject: 13 years old..trying to be pull free
You know. Okay, I'm just going to open up. I'm with people like me now. Only 2 people know. My mom and my best friend. My mom isn't supportive at all with this. Every time she does my hair I hear "Have you pulled out your hair" and then I say yes, and she gives me a speech about how I'm doing it to myself, and how I'm not trying hard enough. She doesn't know what it's like. She AND my doctor AND the school counselors think its just a stupid bad habit. IT'S NOT. I hate it. My mom gets really mad at me for the 6-7 always visible bald spots on my head. Ever since I was little I've wanted beautiful, long thick hair. It's not going to happen now. And I was talking to my best friend, and she doesn't understand either. GOSH, nobody understands. I really really really hate it. My mom refuses to do anything else for me concerning Trichotillomania. It's hopeless. I spent all of yesterday crying my eyes out, and watching Trichotillomania videos.
Then when my mother got home, I tried to talk to her but then she wasn't understanding at all! I told her she should be supportive, but she took that the wrong way, saying, "Oh so, I should just say "oh yeah, you can pull your hair out"?" She doesn't know what its like at all!
I've only pulled from my scalp so far ( I don't know when I started pulling, but I know I was 12...so it wasn't that long ago) but I really don't want to pull from anywhere else, and I'm really scared it'll get worse and I will!
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2012 11:49 pm Post subject:
It's so hard when no-one understands about trichotillomania! Luckily for me, my friends/family are used to me being strange by now and so have sort of accepted it, but I can still see how awful that'd be. I think the only thing you can do is keep talking to your mum about it, try and persuade her that you *can't* stop. Maybe relate it to nail biting? I know a lot more people get how that's hard to quit...
It is hard for people to understand about trichotillomania its not something that you hear about often. As many people that have it don't like talking it about it and aren't open and hide their bald patches. Your mums probably upset, she doesn't understand the problem I'm guessing . She obviously doesn't want to watch you go bald. I know how hard it must be when no one is supportive. Luckily you're on this website and you can talk to people on here. But over time your mum may be a little more supportive than she is at the moment
I know exactly how you feel, as I was in exactly the same position as you at one time. The way I solved it was MAKING them listen and research the condition, with me standing over their shoulder to make sure they were doing it. It sounds awful, but sometimes the only way of getting somebody to listen and understand is by making them, as they are too stubborn or too scared to listen. I remember some really heated discussions with my parents - they still don't understand what it is like to pull, but they understand more the triggers and the emotional side to it better. Best of luck. Xx
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